Want a man to commit? Do this…
If you’re like most women, you’re probably at a point in your life where you’re ready for a “real commitment”. You want to settle down with the right man, build a beautiful life together, have super adorable babies and live happily ever after, right?
But, have you ever sat down and thought about what that REALLY means? What it really means to commit to someone and have them commit to you for the rest of your life?
You’re probably thinking, umm yes Stacey, thats the DREAM! And you may have already pre-planned your future out with your amazing future man…
Can you describe in detail what your future looks like? When you finally have the relationship you’ve always dreamed of?
I want you to paint a picture of that in your head right now…ok, got it?
Now, I want you to take a minute to write down your step by step PLAN to actually get AND maintain that outcome, for the rest of your life.
Stumped? Not so easy, is it? This is where I find MOST people get really stuck in not only their love lives, but with other goals they have as well.
Tell me if you’ve ever said any of these things:
I need to lose 10lbs (or 15, 20, etc.)
I need to eat healthier
I just need to make more money
I’m just trying to get my shit together
If you’re like me, you’ve probably said at least one (if not all) of these things at some point in your life. But I’m also betting that you probably didn’t achieve the outcome you really wanted…
Because you didn’t have a PLAN in place to help you stay on track.
For example, I have always been a yo-yo dieter and have had a really unhealthy relationship with food. It’s really hard for me to stay away from Taco Bell and Cheeseburgers and I gained over 10lbs in LESS THAN A YEAR! For months I kept saying ALL of the above statements but made 0 progress.
Until I created a plan.
Over the last 60 days, I participated in a fitness challenge where I was required to exercise for a minimum of 6 days a week for about 2 hours per day. We were also kept on a very strict diet, eating 6 small meals of lean protein, a tiny amount of carbs and fats and at least 1 gallon of water a day. No sugar, no alcohol and no dairy! WTF?!
EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. that I told I was doing this thought I was a psycho. All of them also claimed “I could NEVER do something like that”…and the challenge only lasted for 2 months!!
But I was determined to actually get the outcome I wanted. No more of this hoping and wishing, I was going to fucking DO something about it.
And guess what?! I accomplished WAYYYY more than I ever thought I could, beyond just my physical transformation. Here is what I accomplished by making this COMMITMENT:
Got up at 4am to do a workout at 4:30a when before the challenge I would normally roll sleepily out of bed around 930ish. My energy in the morning was off the charts and actually improved my quality coffee time in the morning with my man
Completed 2 hours of gym time almost every day.
Improved in my pole dance classes almost overnight because of the strength I've gained from lifting weights
No more moodiness before my period!!!
I lost 19lbs and 16 inches and 6% body fat, my old clothes actually fit again!
Gained my confidence back, which has made my relationship with my man even better (I’m super comfortable running around naked lol)
Got my man to join the gym because of my transformation! He even said this morning (how convenient) that he should have done the challenge with me!
So, you’re probably thinking great job Stacey, but what does this have to do with a relationship?
We’d like to think that making a commitment to be with someone forever is going to be easy, fun and super romantic. And that is definitely a part of how a loving relationship should be. But what most people leave out (I’m guilty of this too) is a plan for creating these incredible relationships because it DOES TAKE WORK.
Have you ever REALLY thought about the recipe for a happy relationship?
How will you create emotional intimacy between you and your man?
What is your action plan when you’ve gotten so familiar with each other that sex doesn’t feel exciting anymore?
When you’re dealing with unexpected financial hardships, what are the steps you’ll take to resolve this issue without blaming each other?
Once you really dive into what it REALLY takes, commitment starts to reveal itself as the MASSIVE beast it is. I’m not trying to scare you, I just want you to also think about why men also seem so scared to commit…this is why!!
BUT DON’T WORRY, I’ve got your back. I’ve been through this before and can help you come up with your action plan to have the relationship you’ve always wanted.
Are you ready?
If so, just reply YES in the comments or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’d love to hear more about what you’re going through in your dating life and where you want to be!
P.S. I also talk a little more about this in my video “The Strategy to find the RIGHT man for you”. Take a peek if you’re interested in finding out more.