Why The Harder You "Try" to Make Things Work, The More Space He Needs

I used to think “if I cook him dinner every night, maybe then he’ll see how great I am”
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“If I pretend to like everything that he likes, maybe then he’ll start showing me more affection” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
“Maybe if I lose more weight, he won’t leave me”
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Do you ever have thoughts like this?
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It sucks because no matter what you do, nothing seems to change. The harder you "try" to make things work, the more space he needs. The "nicer" you become, the more hurtful he becomes.

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Why? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Because GOOD men don’t want to be with a woman who doesn't have boundaries. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

A good man will be with a woman who FEELS amazing about herself and her life with or without him, because he will feel AMAZING around her. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

And this is why you keep attracting hurtful, even abusive men who will only heighten your insecurities, make you cry uncontrollably and make you feel like you're fucking crazy! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It took me 16 years from when I had my first boyfriend to actually figure this out. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And once I did, I started attracting the right men and found my husband shortly after. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It wasn't easy to get there, we still have our fair share of ups and down, as any couple does, but it was worth every bit of it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

We have an unbelievably loving marriage & I can say now that I have the sparkly ring AND the right man to go with it. Oh, and Isn't he handsome? 😍😍😍

Stacey Blunt