When something's telling you to run...listen!

💔 I was settling. I knew it and he knew it, too. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I was settling for a love that was so deeply resentful, and I saw the ugliest, darkest parts of me and of him come out on a weekly basis. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

He was so deeply wounded by his own demons, that he lashed out in anger and I started to feel small again. I had no say. I had started to play the victim again. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I didn’t know where to find the strength to say enough is enough. I felt like a shell of myself and I needed him to tell me that I was whole again. I needed his validation to know that I was a great girlfriend.
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I stopped listening to myself. I stopped trusting myself, even though something deep inside me was telling me to run. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

It felt really shitty, but shit is still warm…
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I’ll fast forward to the end…he broke up with me. He couldn’t see the pain ending and the more we “tried” to make it work, the worse we felt. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

So he ended it, for both of us. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I want you to know that even if you fail, even if you set boundaries and forget them at some point, even if you become lost in a relationship, that you can still find your way back.
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And get EVERYTHING YOU’VE EVER WANTED. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

We ALL make mistakes when we’re ready for a change. I get it, it’s so fucking hard to let go of your comfort zone and become the woman you’ve always wanted to be. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Change is scary. And uncomfortable. And sometimes it’s downright fucking painful. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But you will ALWAYS come out better for it, it just depends on how you react. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Do you allow yourself to become the victim? Or do you allow that pain to become your power?
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Comment HELL YES if you never want to feel stuck in a relationship with a man who doesn’t see how amazing you are and if you’re ready to have the relationship that all your friends are jealous of!


Stacey Blunt