When something's telling you to run...listen!

💔 I was settling. I knew it and he knew it, too. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I was settling for a love that was so deeply resentful, and I saw the ugliest, darkest parts of me and of him come out on a weekly basis. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

He was so deeply wounded by his own demons, that he lashed out in anger and I started to feel small again. I had no say. I had started to play the victim again. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I didn’t know where to find the strength to say enough is enough. I felt like a shell of myself and I needed him to tell me that I was whole again. I needed his validation to know that I was a great girlfriend.
I stopped listening to myself. I stopped trusting myself, even though something deep inside me was telling me to run. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

It felt really shitty, but shit is still warm…
I’ll fast forward to the end…he broke up with me. He couldn’t see the pain ending and the more we “tried” to make it work, the worse we felt. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

So he ended it, for both of us. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I want you to know that even if you fail, even if you set boundaries and forget them at some point, even if you become lost in a relationship, that you can still find your way back.

We ALL make mistakes when we’re ready for a change. I get it, it’s so fucking hard to let go of your comfort zone and become the woman you’ve always wanted to be. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Change is scary. And uncomfortable. And sometimes it’s downright fucking painful. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But you will ALWAYS come out better for it, it just depends on how you react. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Do you allow yourself to become the victim? Or do you allow that pain to become your power?
Comment HELL YES if you never want to feel stuck in a relationship with a man who doesn’t see how amazing you are and if you’re ready to have the relationship that all your friends are jealous of!

Stacey Blunt